03 September 2010

Lady in Waiting

I am currently in the process of reading Lady in Waiting by Jackie Kendall & Debby Jones, and I am so excited because this is a book all women need to read. I began reading earlier this morning before a class. Though I’m only on page 39, and I love it already. It is basically about how most women feel that in order to feel complete, they need a man in their lives. So while in their state of singleness, they put God on hold, and sit around moping about how great their lives if and when they find that "special someone”. But having a relationship with God is so much more than that. When you are complete in Him, relationships will come. It will be ABUNDANT because since you are already complete; your cup of life will overflow with the blessings and mercies of God. I have struggled with this for a while; it was not until recently that I discovered the true meaning of being in love.
I am 19 years old, and the world around me is constantly telling me that being in love and having a mate is so great. This is not only coming from a secular world view, but Christians as well. I have been around many religious people in the last two years who have pressured me to get married young. "Don't wait!" they say, "It is in God's plan for you to get married!" That may be the case, but who is to say except the One who is in charge of the plan? As a woman, the idea is great. I would be lying if I said I never had the desire to have someone in my life or if I said I never fantasized about being in a relationship. But a good friend of mine and I were talking the other day and she was telling me about how being single is our period of blessing. We can spend more time with our Heavenly Father. 1 Corinthians 7:34 says, "An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world--how she can please her husband."
I know that I am a female. I get emotional. I have my mood swings. I love chocolate. But I also know that I can control my emotions. The way I look at it, my spirit should be stronger than my flesh. Sometimes my flesh will just scream and I will give into my selfish desires. But then I hear a gentle cry of my spirit asking me to stop denying it. Ephesians 4:30 says, “And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.” Hmmm, which should I listen to my flesh with produces sin, or the spirit that lives within me that produces redemption….I’ll let you figure that out.
One day, if it is in God’s plan, He will bring someone to me. Maybe I have never met him, maybe I have never seen him but he has seen me, or maybe I just might be friends with him. But one thing I am 100% sure of is Jesus. I have met Him, and He has seen me and I have seen Him. He is my superman. The One I hold hands with when I am walking to class. The One who comforts me on a lonely Friday night. The One always listens to me and never judges me. The one who doesn’t judge me because of the appearance of my body, but the appearance of my soul. The One who stays up all night with me when I can’t sleep. The One who loves me so much that He gave His perfect, spotless life for a filthy sinner like me. Be complete with Jesus. Colossians 2:9, “For in Christ all the fullness of the Deity lives in bodily form”.


  1. Amen! I loooove this! It is so true. I was thinking about this very thing and the scriptures are right on. Thank you, Tiffany for your Godly perspective on singlehood. I will listen to the spirit that brings redemption.
    God bless.

  2. Great post...I will definitely follow!